Having gone through a painful divorce myself, I wish I had known and followed Elder Oaks dating and courtship advice:"The best way to avoid divorce from an unfaithful, abusive, or unsupportive spouse is to avoid marriage to such a person. Associations through 'hanging out' or exchanging information on the Internet are not a sufficient basis for marriage.
At the very top is what he terms a 'glittering little mystery called romance.' If one tries to stand the pyramid on its point, expecting romance to hold everything else up, the pyramid will fall (" The Gospel and Romantic Love," Building a strong friendship will happen over time as you learn how to communicate together, discuss life's important issues, and have a variety of experiences together.
A few brief dates, followed by a whirlwind engagement and marriage, does not build a solid foundation for marriage.
Such a sandy foundation will not hold firm when the storms of life come- and they always come.
Here are some things to look for in a potential spouse.
Do they:"Choose a companion you can always honor, you can always respect, one who will complement you in your own life, one to whom you can give your entire heart, your entire love, your entire allegiance, your entire loyalty" (" Life's Obligations," Although it is extremely important to date those who have high standards and to observe a potential spouse's behavior, it's also important to remember that no one is perfect. Scott warns against focusing too heavily on seeking a perfect companion:"I suggest that you not ignore many possible candidates who are still developing these attributes, seeking the one who is perfected in them.