Remember to look to Gods will, not the standards of the media or the world around us and you will be a better person and a stronger Christian for it.First of all, remember that if you plant purity today, you will reap a rich harvest, free from shame and guilt. (And if you’re not a committed disciple, why aren’t you? (This assumes that you yourself are a growing Christian.) 4. When we judge people by their appearances, often we turn out to be dead wrong—and meanwhile we may have made foolish choices. Realize Christ is watching and is with you all evening—wherever you go and whatever you do. He is with you because He’s omnipresent, but as a believer He is with you in a very special way: you are His holy temple (1 Corinthians ). Realize where you go and who you go with will influence your sexual desires. There are many contexts in which to do evangelism—dating isn’t one of them. If you’re a committed disciple, only date committed disciples.
If an older teen displays maturity, common sense, and sound moral judgment, dating can play an important role in his or her growth and development.But be alert to the difference between appropriate affection and intimacy. Plan the entire evening in advance, with no big gaps.You must stay safely back from the line where either one is propelled toward sexual intimacy. Focus on talk, not touch; conversation, not contact. Gaps always get filled, often with temptations to sexual impurity. Setups include such things as being alone on a couch or in a car late at night or in a bedroom.It should be someone who takes sexual purity seriously, someone with wise advice, who will pray for you and help hold you accountable to high standards. Pray together at the beginning and end of each date. Knowing this prayer is coming will help you to be sure to control yourself and please God. Imagine your parents and church leaders are watching you through the window. Then realize your life is not private—it’s an open book to be seen by a watching world: "What you have said in the dark will be heard in the daylight, and what you have whispered in the ear in the inner rooms will be proclaimed from the roofs” (Luke 12:3). When you sense the temptation coming, before things start to get out of control, RUN. When it comes to sexual temptation, it always pays to be a coward. Write out your own standards and enforce them yourself—never depend on your date.You as an individual are fully responsible and accountable to God for what you do (Romans -12; 2 Corinthians ). Make your moral decisions in advance—not in the time of temptation.Binge drinking, date violence, and even date rape are far too common.In light of this, we would advise that boys and girls under the age of seventeen should not be allowed to go out on one-on-one dates.It can also teach them how to relate to the opposite sex in a healthy way and to recognize the character qualities that are truly important in a marriage relationship.If your child is under seventeen years of age, we'd recommend that you sit down with together and map out some specific guidelines for relationships with the opposite sex.Before deciding how you're going to proceed, it's crucial to realize that contemporary dating is radically different from what it was when the majority of today's parents were kids.Sexual promiscuity is rampant, even among Christian teens, and many young people receive little or no moral guidance from their parents.